Often times we are put in difficult situations where how we react can make or break certain relationships. Whether it is work or personal it’s always smart to take a step back and see how your initial reaction will play out. For example I’ve recently been put to the test when it came to a situation with my mother. Nine times out of ten she knows exactly what buttons to press to get me to literary blow up, picture yosemite sam after bugs bunny foils his plans… that’s me. I won’t go into details of the situation but by the end of the yelling match I replayed it in my head and tried countless times to justify me getting so angry but I realized there was no need for that. We all have the right to be angry but it’s important not to let that emotion control our reaction. Anger is a negative emotion and in my experience it’s one that is similar to lighting fire to gasoline, it’s very destructive and harmful. Here are somethings that have worked for me when I feel a rise in my emotions.
1. Breathe, Breathe, Breathe, Breathe. I cannot express that enough! Regardless if you look like a crazy person, just stop talking and breathe.
2. Shut it down. Whatever is making you upset at that moment just shut it completely down by simply walking away. Do not give that person or situation your consent to control your emotions. Just remove yourself and take time to process the anger. (It was my personal favorite thing to do at work, you can’t be stopped and you have all the power)
3. Mentally walk away. If for some reason you can’t physically walk away remove yourself mentally. Don’t express any emotion, keep a blank straight face, don’t give any response, and simply let the situation play itself out and die down on it’s own.
4. Play music. Put your headphones on and focus on the song playing instead of anything else that’s trying to bring you down.
Feel free to add anything that has worked for you in the past.